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The Carrot, the Egg and the Coffee Bean

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Yesterday, I attended a seminar on parenting at my kids' school. Parents were invited to attend the seminar titled "The Carrot, the Egg and the Coffee Bean: A New Perspective in Parenting."

The seminar made me do some reflections about my being a parent now. I guess parenting is much more complicated than being a writer or being a teacher. But of course, being a parent is also much more rewarding.

In my case, my family, especially my kids, is my source of everything: happiness, strength, fulfillment, faith, and inspiration. Because of this, sometimes, even if I feel so weak, I have to pretend to be strong in front of my kids. I have to smile even if I already feel like giving up sometimes. It's because I don't want my kids to see that something is wrong.

The speaker in the seminar said that PAIN IS PART OF LIFE and that THE MORE PROBLEMS WE ENCOUNTER, THE MORE OPPORTUNITIES WILL COME. He also emphasized the LAW of ATTRACTION which says WE ATTRACT ALL THAT HAPPEN IN OUR LIFE.

I do believe in all these things. I have no doubt that WHAT OUR MIND CAN CONCEIVE, OUR BODY CAN ACHIEVE. I know that whatever we can imagine, we can actually do.

I'm so thankful God created KIDS for without them, I'd be totally lost in this world. They're the reasons I'm envisioning better future and the best life there can ever be.

By the way, the speaker explained the seminar title this way: There was a woman who was crying because of too many problems. She came to her mom's house for an advice. What her mom did instead of giving her directly some pieces of advice was to boil water in three separate pots. When the water in the first pot boiled, the mom put the carrot; in the second pot, she put the egg and the coffee bean was placed in the third pot. The mom then explained:

When we have problems, we could be like the carrot, when heated, or faced with difficult problems, we could turn to something soft. We can just give up and think that there's nothing we can do about the problem. Or we can be like the egg which became harder. When faced with problems, we can be indifferent that we wouldn't mind at all if we have problems. Or just like a coffee bean, we can transform and go with the problems. We can choose to make adjustments according to the kind of problem we're facing. Even solid can become liquid if placed in a liquid. That's the secret of healthy living.



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