What does it take to be a brother?
This is a very subjective question. There can be as many answers as there are people who have brothers.
I have always wondered, “Does my brother know his mission and his role on this planet?” He doesn’t seem to be aware of it.
He was expected to be a model to all of us, who are younger than he is.
As the eldest child of my parents, he should have shown us how to patiently spend hours studying lessons, writing school papers, and reviewing for exams;
As the eldest, he should have taught us the difference between needs and wants;
As the eldest, he should have encouraged us to continue studying and preparing for our future;
As the eldest, he should have understood our limitations, and weaknesses;
As the eldest, he should have been at our youngest sister’s wedding;
As the eldest, he should unite our family despite all trials and problems;
As the eldest, he should have given full assistance to our mom who once needed his help;
As the eldest, he should know that he, just like all of us, has limitations and weaknesses.
Until now, I keep thinking: Why would someone as intelligent as he is, be so insensitive?
How can a genius like him be so inconsiderate and inert?
How can he not learn to sit down and talk about serious family matters?
How can he not be sensitive of his own mother’s feelings?
How can he be so selfish?
All right, he was able to help us.
He used to help me with my assignments when we were in elementary school in Manila.
He used to draw for me when I have assignments in Arts when we were studying at Araneta Univ.
When I was in college, he gave me money so I was able to buy a pair of white pants, flat iron (I was staying is a dorm in Baguio), and some blouses. Also, he gave me money for a hot oil treatment.
But I won’t forget that he intentionally didn’t attend my graduation in Baguio. He just said he “would be starving for several days if he uses his budget for transportation going to Baguio.” (he was working in Manila then) Okay—but he just didn’t want to see me get my diploma. If he wanted to be there, he could find a way. My boyfriend (now my husband) came to my graduation even if he had work in Manila and had no enough money to treat me to an expensive restaurant. I didn’t hear any complaint from him. Kapatid ko pa ang hindi pumunta.
My brother, all right, used to help our family, financially. That was when he had a good job (although he didn’t have a college diploma) – earning more than a hundred thousand pesos a month.
A business affair suddenly changed everything.
He just stopped all forms of communication with us – no text, no phone call, no visit, not even during the most precious moment in my sister’s life – her wedding. He was nowhere to be found. He just stopped attending family gatherings.
Now, we need his presence, understanding, care, and support.
He knows so much in computer, math, arts, logic, science, writing, English. He has so much in his brain. But he lacks a heart – for his family, for us.
How can he allow a business matter affect the relationship we nurtured when we were young?
We went to the same elementary and high schools. We even had the same teachers. We both lived with our grandma when my mom was abroad many years ago.
We grew up together, but he doesn’t seem to feel what we feel. We have the same parents but he doesn’t seem to know why he is needed in our family – he forgot that his role is important for us because we never had a father.
How can he not choose to take care of our mom and stick to us, as his brothers and sisters, knowing that his father didn’t care for us either?
How can he sleep soundly at night as he keeps himself away from us?
May he realize that life is too short. If he chooses to be gone, I might say “I am ready to lose a brother who does not at all care.”
This is just how I feel.
I hope he feels something for his own family.
This is a very subjective question. There can be as many answers as there are people who have brothers.
I have always wondered, “Does my brother know his mission and his role on this planet?” He doesn’t seem to be aware of it.
He was expected to be a model to all of us, who are younger than he is.
As the eldest child of my parents, he should have shown us how to patiently spend hours studying lessons, writing school papers, and reviewing for exams;
As the eldest, he should have taught us the difference between needs and wants;
As the eldest, he should have encouraged us to continue studying and preparing for our future;
As the eldest, he should have understood our limitations, and weaknesses;
As the eldest, he should have been at our youngest sister’s wedding;
As the eldest, he should unite our family despite all trials and problems;
As the eldest, he should have given full assistance to our mom who once needed his help;
As the eldest, he should know that he, just like all of us, has limitations and weaknesses.
Until now, I keep thinking: Why would someone as intelligent as he is, be so insensitive?
How can a genius like him be so inconsiderate and inert?
How can he not learn to sit down and talk about serious family matters?
How can he not be sensitive of his own mother’s feelings?
How can he be so selfish?
All right, he was able to help us.
He used to help me with my assignments when we were in elementary school in Manila.
He used to draw for me when I have assignments in Arts when we were studying at Araneta Univ.
When I was in college, he gave me money so I was able to buy a pair of white pants, flat iron (I was staying is a dorm in Baguio), and some blouses. Also, he gave me money for a hot oil treatment.
But I won’t forget that he intentionally didn’t attend my graduation in Baguio. He just said he “would be starving for several days if he uses his budget for transportation going to Baguio.” (he was working in Manila then) Okay—but he just didn’t want to see me get my diploma. If he wanted to be there, he could find a way. My boyfriend (now my husband) came to my graduation even if he had work in Manila and had no enough money to treat me to an expensive restaurant. I didn’t hear any complaint from him. Kapatid ko pa ang hindi pumunta.
My brother, all right, used to help our family, financially. That was when he had a good job (although he didn’t have a college diploma) – earning more than a hundred thousand pesos a month.
A business affair suddenly changed everything.
He just stopped all forms of communication with us – no text, no phone call, no visit, not even during the most precious moment in my sister’s life – her wedding. He was nowhere to be found. He just stopped attending family gatherings.
Now, we need his presence, understanding, care, and support.
He knows so much in computer, math, arts, logic, science, writing, English. He has so much in his brain. But he lacks a heart – for his family, for us.
How can he allow a business matter affect the relationship we nurtured when we were young?
We went to the same elementary and high schools. We even had the same teachers. We both lived with our grandma when my mom was abroad many years ago.
We grew up together, but he doesn’t seem to feel what we feel. We have the same parents but he doesn’t seem to know why he is needed in our family – he forgot that his role is important for us because we never had a father.
How can he not choose to take care of our mom and stick to us, as his brothers and sisters, knowing that his father didn’t care for us either?
How can he sleep soundly at night as he keeps himself away from us?
May he realize that life is too short. If he chooses to be gone, I might say “I am ready to lose a brother who does not at all care.”
This is just how I feel.
I hope he feels something for his own family.
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